Encouraging Girls to Dare for their Dreams.

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This post is exclusively for the teen girls out there! I’m thinking of making this a regular weekly series… a sort of “girl talk” session focusing on girls, their dreams, and their goals. What do you think?

The post for today is a few questions concerning dreams, fears, and taking steps to push through those fears towards those dreams.

What’s a dream of yours that you’re afraid won’t come about? Why?
What do you think is one thing you could do within the next 48 hours, no matter how small, to get closer to obtaining that dream? Could you take a certain action, change a negative thought to a positive one, or choose an item you’ll see often to represent that dream?

Answer the questions in the comments below, or privately to yourself. Maybe it would be beneficial to you to write them down and keep the written answers somewhere safe. Is there a question you could add that you feel applies to you and your dream that would be helpful to answer in writing?

REMEMBER: You only have to be as personal with your answers as you’re comfortable with. Others’ dreams might not jive with yours, and that’s okay; so please only post positive, encouraging comments, or else none at all. Also, if you’re younger than 18 years old, be smart and don’t put any personal, identifying information in your comment should you choose to answer that way.

After some soul-searching  following the opening of my Etsy shop, I’ve decided to realign its mission slightly to be the encouragement and empowerment of teen girls to work for their dreams. This “new” mission is important to me because I was a teen girl myself only a few years back, and I can recall all too clearly the feelings of self-doubt and/or worthlessness that can (and generally do) come with being a teen girl… heck, with being a teen at all.

Being a teen girl is what I can most closely identify with, though. I was a girl who was afraid to dream too much; what if they didn’t come true? What if those dreams weren’t considered “normal” or “cool” or “obtainable”, etc?

Sometimes just a little encouragement can be enough to pull you through. Little (or large) bits of encouragement made a huge impact on my life, even though I only realize this looking back now. They helped me to keep going, and eventually find that my dreams were precious because they were (and are) my own.

I’m looking into expanding my shop beyond bracelets, but for now I hope that there are girls out there who will gain some encouragement to work for their dreams by wearing one of my bracelets as a reminder to chase those goals.

What do you think of my goal? What is something that’s encouraged you, no matter how small?
What’s a mission that’s important to you, and how are you working for it to happen?

Hi, everyone! I opened my Etsy shop, Of Dreams and Daring, earlier this week. I’m selling hand knotted bracelets. If you read my Etsy profile, you’ll learn why… in a nutshell, it’s to inspire both others and myself.

However, I’m finding that my pricing and my passion for my reason to sell aren’t jiving together, at least not for me.

You see, my prices range from $20-$40 a bracelet. I’ve been reading Tara Gentile’s blog about pricing according to your own self-worth (among other things) for months now, and it really struck a chord with me, as someone who has struggled with her self-confidence for years. When I read about Tara’s partnering up with Adam King to start another blog about Reclaiming Wealth, I eagerly clicked over to read. Not long after, Adam wrote up a post about shoes, pricing, and the similarities they share in his mind.

That post completely blew up my perception about pricing and the relation it has with my own self-worth.

Basically, Adam says that he approaches the subject of pricing in a very objective and straightforward manner, much like how he shops for shoes: he gets clear about what he wants, why he wants it, and what the most reasonable/accessible way to make it happen would be.

The key to his method of pricing, and how he doesn’t get frozen in fear or doubt over it, is that he refrains from getting emotionally attached to his prices.

If you know about Tara and her thought process about pricing, you’ll know that it’s basically the polar opposite of Adam’s. Both trains of thought take a lot of effort for me to thoroughly process. Believe me, I’m still trying to.

After being thrown this screwball of a post, I felt confused and anxious to the point of getting flutteries in my stomach. I then wrote out a long, impassioned reply… after which I took a deep, pausing breath and deleted everything, because it was basically a very long-winded, “You’ve completely shattered my Tara-influenced perspective on pricing, and I don’t know whether I want to thank you or dislike you as much as my normally peaceful persona will allow!”

Then I got out my little notebook in which I’ve been jotting ideas/thoughts about my business, turned to a blank page, and wrote out:

What do I want out of my business?

  1. I want to be able to support myself financially.
  2. I want to thrive mentally/emotionally.
  3. I want to forge meaningful connections
  4. I want to help other young people reach their own dreams, financial or other, through creative means.
  5. I want it to be accessible to young people. 
This is all very true, but I don’t feel that my prices are complementary to my goals. Also true is the fact that I’m not currently sure how I’m going to bring goals 4 and 5 about.
As you’ve gathered by now, I have some concerns.
  1. I don’t want to cheapen my bracelets’ value. But what if I’m actually over-estimating their value?
  2. I don’t want to cheap out on my vision of helping other young people. How am I going to connect with them through my bracelets with my bracelets’ current pricing? Am I disrespecting/devaluing other young folk in assuming “Oh, they can’t afford these bracelets at these prices?”
  3. Profit or passion. Passion or profit. Can’t I have both? How am I going to figure out that “happy medium”?
I’m opening the floor to you, now. What are your thoughts on happily merging passion and profit? How do you think that “happy medium” is to be reached? Where do you stand on the issue of pricing reflecting self-worth (or not)?